It’s funny now, how when I look back on all my years, all the things that I just accepted as “ME.” This is just me, it’s just how I am. Coming from a place now where I question every move, every thought, and every action to uncover hidden programming, it still blows my mind that I blindly accepted all the hidden programming as “this is just me.” I had no idea I was programmed.
I do a much better job explaining it in my course Why Am I Here? in case you are interested.
When you grow up with a yoke around your neck, at some point in time you will subconsciously accept it as part of yourself. As RJ Spina says, **“What you tolerate, you deserve.”**
The Power of Programmability: Change Is Always Possible
Programming can be changed. Whether it be in a CPU or your subconscious, it does not have to stay the same. Programs can be deleted and replaced in seconds.
I am writing this blog on a 2008 MacBook. I just kept updating it and installing new software and hardware. You can change a computer’s software, and in minutes, it becomes a totally different machine. The old is gone in an instant, and the new takes over. That is literally what happened to me after reading RJ Spina’s book, **”Change Your Mind.”**
It literally made me a new person by the minute. Why did it take me 57 years to figure this out?
Because I just accepted the lie that **“this is just how I am.”** It’s too late to change. It’s too hard after all these years to start the work.
The Minimal Work, The Maximum Freedom
The truth is, it was work. I had to do the hard work of processing and letting go of feelings I had stuffed in my body. But each one only took about one minute to delete.
The work was minimal compared to the freedom I experienced. I had some intense sessions with myself as I processed years of pain, rejection, insecurity, trauma, and a host of other issues.
But this wasn’t like traditional therapy where you focus on the problem, talk about the problem, identify with the problem and worse, identify with the person who has the problem.
*“I am an alcoholic”* was the worst thing I could have professed. Maybe I was at one point. I surfaced it, dealt with it, then deleted and disassociated myself from it and moved on instead of identifying as an alcoholic for the rest of my life.
**What you tolerate, you deserve.**
**What you focus on, you receive.**
Questioning Every Thought and Action
Without giving away all the details in RJ’s book, I will tell you what a normal day looked like for me doing the exercises.
RJ took two weeks off work to discover and delete his programming. I couldn’t take two weeks off, so I did it while going about my normal day.
Any time I had a thought, I would question it: *Where did that come from?* *Why did I think that?* I would question it until I reached the root of where that thought originated. I literally did this all day—day after day—until the thoughts became fewer and fewer.
With each thought, there was a hidden line of code in my subconscious that I deleted. I did the same with all my actions. As simple and mundane as it was, I questioned everything.
Understanding Your True Self Beyond the Mind
I already knew that I was not my mind. I was not my thoughts, and I was not this body or character named Joe.
I am the consciousness inside the character. I am the awareness looking through these eyes. I am aware of the thoughts in my head, but I am not the thoughts themselves.
Knowing that the voice in my head IS the Matrix, made it easier for me to do the exercises because I didn’t identify with the voice in my head as “me” anymore. I was glad to let it go, knowing it was just hidden programming.
The Hidden Patterns Behind Ordinary Actions
I was amazed at the hidden patterns and motives behind the simplest actions—like checking my phone for a response, seeking validation through email, likes, and shares.
Even watching TV or scrolling social media revealed so much about my underlying programming.
It’s not that you can’t do those things anymore, but discovering *why* you do them is the real breakthrough.
There is a motive behind every action. You’d be surprised what you uncover once you begin questioning everything.
The Illusion of Control and the Power of Self-Realization
RJ’s statement struck me profoundly: The only way to stop an unlimited creator like yourself, is to get them to stop themselves.
You do this by guiding the creator to think differently—by making them look outside themselves for help, and by convincing them that the voice in their head is truly *them*.
Have you ever blindly obeyed the voice in your head, thinking it’s you? I made it a point to completely ignore that voice, as if it were an enemy trying to sabotage my success. And you know what? It worked.
Instead, I was guided by the true self—deep within the center of my being. The one that doesn’t use words to communicate but instead relies on intuition, gut feelings, and unctions—those innate knowingings that feel right without explanation.
Living Beyond the Noise
No words, no thoughts, no processing—just pure intuition guiding me.
It’s crazy to think the voice in your head is just a program running in the background, designed to keep you limited. And it’s even crazier to realize that this voice isn’t you at all.
But from experience, I can tell you: even if you don’t believe it, just doing the work will awaken you to who you truly are and help you live the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Coach Joe